“THE DAILY BATTLE FOR A NORMAL LIFE” a memoir
Olivia was a townswoman of Haiti whose life has been persecuted in all aspects. She talked about how in her childhood, she has become a friend of nature, which has impacted her life and abetted her throughout the diversity of many encumbrances. Through nature, she has learned what life is about, and nature has helped her overcome utmost the madness she has encountered along her pathway. She believes that the cycle change in the nature is likened to the cycle change in people’s lives.
Abandoned by her father while she was only an embryo, a father that had never come across her way, isolated from her mother at the age of six, she was left to be raised by her grandparents. Her existence is marked by many junctures. At an early age, she already knew what sexual harassment is about. She boarded many strangers’ houses. In her teenage years, she traveled virtually the entire country from north, south, and central and has seen things that normal teens haven’t seen and probably won’t ever see in their existence. In her thirties, her husband left her in Haiti with two of her children, after the chaotic presidential overthrow of 1986. Fearing retaliation by an uprising populace, her husband was the first to emigrate in USA because as an act of reprisal toward anyone that had worked for the regime, no matter what your job was, thugs in the streets terrorized everyone (you can be here today and dead tomorrow). In 1987, after passing a long time into hell, in a country still under revolution, she and her children fled to New York. Then ten months after, she moved to Miami with her family, where she made it home in the United States, her adopted country. In 1992, while her life started to recover, her new home was hit by the most violent cyclone, Hurricane Andrew, which had destroyed everything she had amassed. A few years later, her husband left her again to go back to his native land, to stay. This is to ask if everyone that she loves will always find a way to pass as an absentee in her life.
Over the following years, many chronic diseases have attacked her body, and from there the fun started, the fun game to stay alive. No one would imagine of what she’s going through. She always looks happy, but under the veil of her happiness was hiding all sort of life complications that you would never thought could happen to one person. Her conviction is that she should not complain about herself. In this world we’re living in, each of us carries secret onuses.
By experience, she realized that people have a habit of comparing our burdens with the other people’s. It isn’t a fair tactic to support a friend or a family member in despair by associating his or her problem with another. Life is an impartial place for all of us. Don’t presume that some problems are less than others. You exactly detain what you can bear oneself and what was predestined to fit only you.
The author, Lorette Gay, truly believes that it isn’t by hazard that bad or good things happen to us. We’re here on earth with a predeterminate assignment and with a plan that was designed for each of us. We don’t make our destiny; we’re born with it. Born in Haiti and married, she’s the mother of three lovely, handsome children. At the age of ten, she traveled to Canada with her mother, then returned to her origin country two years later to complete her residence. Oddly, her mother refused to go back. In 1987, after the presidential overthrow, she and her family established their lives in the United States. She thought that it wasn’t meant for her to become Haitian Canadian but a Haitian American. She never had the good fortune to meet her father, even once in her life. She was left to live with her grandparents. Deprived of her mother’s presence, and as the only child in her grandparents’ house, aloneness didn’t take long to invade her young soul. She took refuge in reading books, especially good French literature books—Victor Hugo, Pierre de Ronsard, Jean de LaFontaine, etc.—and Haitian literacy classics of Oswald Durand, Etzer Vilaire, and Massillon Coicou, to cite a few. She also took real pleasure to observe the folkloric panorama of the nature. Nature, which has become her best friend. Through her journeys, she has encountered various up and downs that didn’t let her any lull. She doesn’t let all this dishearten her because of her belief—that burdens.
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First originally published by Page Publishing, Inc. 2019
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